steam ran out as I realized they weren't challenging me on that front.

They weren't asking me why a same sex marriage, they weren't even asking me why a second marriage, they were asking me why I was making another wedding. After all, hadn't I already been there and done that?

Why Another Wedding?

Well, yes, in fact I had. My first wedding was wonderful. Truly my parents made me the wedding of my dreams. And it was marvelous; it was everything I wanted… then. But, as is the way of the world, things change. And change they have. Certainly I am not the girl I was then. So many things in my life have changed, not the least of which is my choice of partner.

So, here I am again, confronted with the same question. "What is the wedding of your dreams…NOW?"

My first wedding was all about the dreams of a romantic young girl- innocent and inexperienced, full of fantasy and bound to thousands of years of custom and tradition. The results were relatively typical- a wedding chosen by the Bride with little or no input from the Groom. (Remember, all he needed to do was show up.)

This is not the case NOW. Here, my partner and I are planning our wedding the same way we live our life- together. With passion and pride, creatively melding our diverse heritages and treasured traditions. Crafting something as new and unique as the shared life we are creating. We have one rule to guide us through all our choices, one concept we wish to thoroughly express in everything we decide. In each choice we ask, first and foremost, one question, "Does this express US? Is this uniquely evocative of us?" And in planning this wedding we have applied this to every aspect, from the setting, to the ceremony, to the garb of the wedding party, even to the menu for the reception.

We have chosen to personalize every aspect of our celebration, from handcrafting all the paper- the save the date cards, the invitations, everything; to making the centerpieces for the tables and even making the flower girl's basket and the ring bearer's pillow. Our colours are deeply meaningful to us as are the symbols that run through everything. The ankh, the lotus, the fleur de lis, the claddagh- symbols of our commitment, our plans, our love, - our life together.

So, why are we doing this? To create something unique and memorable, something that expresses who we are and allows us to share our dream and vision with all of you. To celebrate the once in a life-time miracle of having found a true life-partner, a soul mate, someone with whom we can both share equally in all aspects of our life.

And we are so pleased that you all will be a part of that, because each of you is a special part of our diverse pasts and we hope you will continue to be a part of our wondrous future. That's what weddings are all about, setting us on the path to a new life and a new world. Welcome to our hallway, and just through that door… right across that threshold is our future, shining and bright. Won't you step over the threshold with us and help us celebrate our tomorrows?